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BayNVC - Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
NVC Mediation 2-Day Weekend Workshop with John Kinyon & Lisa Montana
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| Saturday, April 24, 2010 - Sunday, April 25, 2010 |
| 10:00am-5:00pm |
Developing skills for conflict resolution & “mediating your life”
Growing in Presence, Personal Growth, & NVC Skills
Do you want to learn how to:
* Facilitate people in conflict in feeling heard by each other and connected to their shared humanity
* Empathically connect to others’ experience in challenging conflict situations
* Translate judgments into need language with greater ease and naturalness
* Return to presence and connection with self and others in the midst of the intensity of conflict
* Support others in clear requests and collaborative solutions
Would you like to develop skills in various conflict contexts?
* Effectively mediate as a “third side” professionally or in your work?
* Lend your skills informally to support people in your life in conflict?
* Peacefully resolve conflicts you are having with others?
* Transform warring voices in your own head?
* Apply mediation skills to conflict coaching and working with groups?
Time for lunch will be provided during the workshop. BayNVC has a kitchen for your use and several restaurants are located within easy walking distance.
Overview
This training, which has now evolved into a Mediation Immersion Program, develops and strengthens your abilities to apply the skills of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to being a mediator and “mediating your life” in all aspects of conflict - inner and outer, in your own life as well as others’.
In this 2-day NVC Mediation foundations weekend workshop you will learn to facilitate:
* people in conflict feeling heard to their satisfaction by each other
* being connected at the level of shared human needs
* finding solutions through making clear, present time, action language requests to meet needs and contribute to self and others
Central to the training is that NVC mediation skills are learnable and, when applied holistically, a person can remain connected to their own needs and productively assist in the resolution of conflict both internally and externally, formally or informally. The training provides an experience with the language, skills and consciousness of NVC applied to mediating conflict in all types of situations -- from legal to business/organizational to personal, family and community relationships.
Our training is based in the mediation process developed by NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg and is centered in a “three chair learning model” (see below).
In addition to greater comfort and success mediating conflicts, many participants in our trainings have reported accelerated development in their NVC skills, their capacity for presence and personal growth within themselves and in their relationships.
Continuing Education Units are available for licensed social workers, marriage and family therapists and registered nurses. Click here for more information on Continuing Education Units.
Program Description
At the heart of our program is the conviction that increasing your capacity to be with conflict and intervene productively involves learnable skills. Emphasis is placed on seeing one’s relationship with conflict as a life practice of returning to presence (i.e. mindful awareness) and mediating from connection with the needs of self and others and making clear, “doable” requests moment to moment. Daily and weekly practices for self-connection, learning and skill building between classes will be offered and encouraged to integrate and extend the learning into everyday life.
The training offers: a five-step model, nine mediation skills, a pre-post mediation framework, four mediation contexts (internal, self-other, informal and formal), mediator self-care and a learning/growth cycle, and applications to conflict such as the engagement call, conflict coaching, mediating with groups, “accreted” mediation and reconciliation with deeper interpersonal pain.
The NVC mediation process is also used to transcend inner conflicts and outer challenges regarding professional development issues such as sustainability, livelihood and relationship with money. In the mediation role plays, there are ample opportunities if you choose to work with conflict experiences from your own and others’ lives and explore questions meaningful to you and your life and work.
Experiential Learning – The Three Chair Model
At the heart of the training is a three chair process designed to create an experiential environment with multiple modes of learning based in real time feedback, in-the-moment coaching and self-directed learning. Communication and mediation skills and challenges are differentiated and layered in ways that you can direct the level of challenge and complexity within your particular learning zone. On a larger process level, the training itself is set up for you to “mediate your life,” with the opportunity to “put into the chairs” real conflicts from your own life and mediate meeting the needs of self and others in the group environment during the training.
In conflict role plays, you will learn by doing and by receiving feedback from multiple perspectives. You will have the chance to play mediator and disputant, with roles rotating for optimal learning. Sitting in the mediator’s chair you’ll practice staying present and connected with yourself moment by moment and get real time coaching from us (John and Lisa) as well as feedback from those in the disputant roles and from those observing. As disputant or observer, you then have the opportunity to move into the mediator’s chair and put into practice what you have just learned. There is a back and forth flow between experiential doing and “harvesting” together the learning from each role play and practice situation. There is also flow between being in the whole group and breaking into small groups. John and Lisa demonstrate, coach, facilitate and share their perspectives and experiences throughout, modeling as often as we are able the very skills we are offering.
In the role plays, you can put your own real conflict (internal or with another) “into the chairs” and receive the benefits of playing yourself in the conflict (and receive empathy for yourself and understanding for the other); and you can also play the role of the other in the conflict and receive a deeper compassion and understanding for the other, and greater peace and clarity for you.
About John Kinyon and Lisa Montana
JOHN KINYON has been training with NVC for over 10 years and together with colleague Ike Lasater has been developing and evolving the NVC mediation approach for the past 7 years, beginning with a journey together to the Pakistan-Afghanistan border to work with Afghan tribal elders in early 2002, shortly after the bombings following 9/11. From this experience they saw first hand that despite at least eight languages being used and layers of cobbled-together, ad hoc translation, connection to universal human needs and the NVC mediation approach worked even with a real dispute that came alive in the room during the training.
John's mediation training now includes telecourses, workshops, residential retreats and immersion programs in the U.S. and a growing number of countries around the world including Sweden, Holland, Poland, Hungary, Australia and New Zealand, and possibilities opening in China and Argentina.
John has facilitated NVC mediation on just about every level of human relations since 2002, including couples, family, community, business, legal contexts and institutions.
John’s mediation practice has included an entire graduate faculty of the University of California at Los Angeles, the Executive Vice Chancellor and all the Vice Chancellors at another UC system university, numerous family businesses, families with inheritance issues, faculty and administration in alternative schools, personal and business partnership dissolutions, and individuals and groups desiring conflict coaching and communication training support.
John's mediation practice continues to expand as the word spreads of this alternative to the mainstream problem-solving approach to mediation. John lives with his wife and three children in the San Francisco Bay Area. For more information about John visit www.johnkinyon.com.
LISA MONTANA came to mediation from the corporate world, where she witnessed frequent disputes, most of them handled in ways that nobody liked. In NVC, she found a model in which everybody's needs matter, and against all odds, has seen wildly antagonistic foes (sometimes including herself) find common ground. Lisa has a reputation for clarity, humor and compassion, and her workshops offer participants the chance to strengthen their skills in a lively and supportive atmosphere. Lisa is part of the teaching team for BayNVC's year-long Mediation Immersion Program. She also offers mediation, private trainings and conflict-resolution coaching to individuals, businesses and organizations around the country. You can reach Lisa at lisa@baynvc.org.
Testimonials from our NVC mediation trainings
The mediation class was my pathway into grasping NVC in a deeper way. The immediacy and aliveness of the role-plays highlighted the value of having fluency in NVC skills and therefore motivated me to take my learning to a deeper level. The structure of the class facilitates learning in a way that works very well for me. There is just the right amount of theory to help us get started, with the larger portion of the class left to dynamic role-plays with excellent coaching from the teachers. I think you teach really well together. It's very helpful having two teachers. The class is dynamic and engaging.
- Holly Wilder
The mediation series provided me with practical yet powerful skills for resolving conflict - in my own life and the lives of others. I've been a "peacemaker" at heart all of my life. However, prior to this training, I didn't have the tools to translate my intention into action. Since the workshop I have gone on to do several successful mediations with clients in my private practice as well as friends and family. If only I would have learned these skills 15 years ago! John & Ike's mastery of the material, depth of experience and integrity in living the process are exceptional. I highly recommend this training!
- Chris Kresser
The mediation class engaged my brain and my heart. It was the first time I was able to focus on empathy in a way that was very clear to me. I did not choose a side, or make a decision on who was clearly right and clearly wrong as my culture and community have trained me. Mediation gave me the gift of practicing genuine mediation while holding space for two people who need to have voice. Mediation also directly impacted my ability to be a manager at an agency that is dedicated to social justice. I now realize that social justice comes from within an agency and feeds the community it serves. If the people in the agency can be in connection with each other in a way they enjoy, then our mission has a firm foundation. Finally, NVC gave me a clear path to embody observation, feelings, needs and request. It is a part of me that now serves my self and others. I feel very confident in living nonviolent communication.
- Nicki Guard
Prerequisite:
We ask that participants have a basic working knowledge of NVC, either by participating in a Foundations 1 Series through BayNVC,
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by reading at least the first 8 chapters of the book Nonviolent Communication: a Language of Life, by Marshall Rosenberg
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by listening to one or two Introductory NVC Academy Audio Recordings
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by participating in at least two empathy practice group sessions,
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by reading through our basic reference materials on the BayNVC website. |
| Requested Experience: | We ask that participants have a basic working knowledge of NVC. Let us know if you would like more information about how to gain an understanding of basic NVC skills. | | Location: | Oakland, CA, BayNVC Office |
| Trainer(s): | John Kinyon, Lisa Montana |
| Requested Contribution: | Sliding Scale: $150 - $300. The requested contribution for this 2-day workshop is from $150-300. We request full payment or alternate payment arrangements (such as a payment plan or partial scholarship) at registration. If you are interested in attending but believe you cannot afford to give what we are asking, please talk with us and we will do our best to include you.
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| Contact: | For more information contact John Kinyon at johnkinyon (at) JBKsolutions.com or (510) 222 5574. (John's preference is that you email him.)
Limited space is available. Don’t miss this unique opportunity!
BayNVC is located near Piedmont Avenue in Oakland. Our building is wheelchair accessible, we offer free parking and we are convenient to public transportation. We are close to several restaurants and we also have a kitchen.
We will send registered participants a confirmation email with driving and public transit directions and information regarding nearby restaurants, as well as recommended overnight accommodations for participants who are from out of town.
Please pre-register so that we can plan chairs and so that we can keep you updated with pertinent information about this workshop.
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